Hello Everyone!
I was listening to a speaker and he asked, "How many of you feel like a public success and a private failure?" And, I thought, "WOW!" I hear from people from all over the world, many are hairstylists, who are seeking answers. They want directions to achieving success. They want to know the "secret."
Many are frustrated and not motivated because things are not working out as planned. They own a business and have employees or both renters, yet, they are barely making ends meet. They don't have an advertisement budget, they can't afford to expand their business, and they are trying not to give up on a career they love. A career that paid substantially in the past. They don't understand, "the shift."
A "shift" can happen in business and in your personal life. Things change and people change. Many times, people are not paying attention. Or, they see the change happening and don't address it. Some people are great on the job and lousy in relationships. At work, they wear a smile and dread going home.
I have a friend who recently retired from the military. He received some many awards and honors, most were received alone. He served in combat and returned to the states without a wife or family to welcome him home. He was surrounded by the soldiers he lead in combat, receiving hugs and kisses from their families. He shared with me the loneliness he felt during this time.
When he attended his retirement ceremonies and dinners, again, he was alone. In the public, he was very successful, but, privately, he felt like a failure. He often speaks about being the "good guy" in relationships and opening his heart to ungrateful women. And, how he has been a target, because of his success.
In life, you do NOT get a "do-over." Take inventory and do what is necessary to be happy. Now is the time to live your BEST life!
Create a Better Day!
Toni Love
www.tonilove.com
Author: "The World of Wigs, Weaves, and Extensions" (Sold Everywhere!)
Facebook: Toni Love Cosmetology
Twitter: @tonilove205
Saturday, May 2, 2015
Tuesday, April 7, 2015
Are You Hungry and Humble?
Hello Everyone!
Spring is here and it's time to accomplish the first of the year goals. Many people want success and have a distorted idea of what it means to be successful. You can be successful in some areas of your life and not in others. Some people feel wearing name brand clothes and driving a expensive car means success. Others feel having a big house means success. And, there are those who feel having a lot of money means success. How do you define success?
Most successful people are hungry, meaning something internally is driving them to achieve their goals. These people are focused, disciplined and consistent. They don't allow other people to alter their plans. People who are not focused tend to think they are crazy, trying too hard, need to loosen up, or feel they are too serious. Hungry people tend to stay focused, follow their instincts, and are not lead by emotions to make decisions.
Hungry people tend to think differently about life. They have a tendency to tap into the supernatural and believe they can really achieve the goals they set out to accomplish. Most people who are hungry to this degree, will have the level of success they are seeking. Will they fail at some tasks? Yes. Will they pick themselves up and try again? Yes.
The lack of humility tends to be the downfall of some successful people. They forget where they started, the hunger is not there, and the belief system within has died. There is no one holding them accountable for their actions. When this happens, they start to spiral downhill.
When it comes to success, don't allow yours to be defined by someone else. Happiness and self fulfillment equates to success. Are you happy? Are you fulfilled in all areas of your life? If not, what will it take to make you happy and fulfilled? Set the plan and make it happen. Remember, always remain humble in everything you do!
Create a Better Day!
Toni Love
www.tonilove.com
Author: "The World of Wigs, Weaves, and Extensions"
Facebook: Toni Love Cosmetology
Twitter: @tonilove205
Spring is here and it's time to accomplish the first of the year goals. Many people want success and have a distorted idea of what it means to be successful. You can be successful in some areas of your life and not in others. Some people feel wearing name brand clothes and driving a expensive car means success. Others feel having a big house means success. And, there are those who feel having a lot of money means success. How do you define success?
Most successful people are hungry, meaning something internally is driving them to achieve their goals. These people are focused, disciplined and consistent. They don't allow other people to alter their plans. People who are not focused tend to think they are crazy, trying too hard, need to loosen up, or feel they are too serious. Hungry people tend to stay focused, follow their instincts, and are not lead by emotions to make decisions.
Hungry people tend to think differently about life. They have a tendency to tap into the supernatural and believe they can really achieve the goals they set out to accomplish. Most people who are hungry to this degree, will have the level of success they are seeking. Will they fail at some tasks? Yes. Will they pick themselves up and try again? Yes.
The lack of humility tends to be the downfall of some successful people. They forget where they started, the hunger is not there, and the belief system within has died. There is no one holding them accountable for their actions. When this happens, they start to spiral downhill.
When it comes to success, don't allow yours to be defined by someone else. Happiness and self fulfillment equates to success. Are you happy? Are you fulfilled in all areas of your life? If not, what will it take to make you happy and fulfilled? Set the plan and make it happen. Remember, always remain humble in everything you do!
Create a Better Day!
Toni Love
www.tonilove.com
Author: "The World of Wigs, Weaves, and Extensions"
Facebook: Toni Love Cosmetology
Twitter: @tonilove205
Monday, March 2, 2015
The Process of Setting Goals
Hello Everyone!
The process of goal setting can be life changing. Many people set goals with high hopes of getting them accomplished within a certain time. Once the time passes and the goal is not achieved, many get discouraged and give up.
People who are super-achievers make a relentless commitment to constant learn. They have clear goals expressed in a crafted document detailing their plans. These are serious people seeking results. But, be reminded, people with average intelligence have achieved greatness by understanding the skill of goal setting.
There different types of goals: short term goal and long term goals. Some would go a step further and say, "unrealistic and realistic goals." When setting goals, you must be clear on what you are seeking. Things will not be accessible, until your thoughts are focused and directed. Also, the mind has to see it and you have to believe it is possible.
Some reasons goal setting can fail:
1. Most people make a "wish list" and cross their fingers. There is no plan of action.
2. Your ideas are not clear. Your goals must be crystal clear.
3. You are all TALK. You do not have a strategy in place, nor do you have the resources.
4. You do not have a "Management System." You do not have a system to keep you on track.
5. You are lacking reinforcement. You lack the support and/or guidance needed along the way.
When you have announced your goals to others, you need someone to hold you accountable and to "call you out!" Also, you need someone to give you encouragement. When working toward something positive, you may face obstacles and challenges. Therefore, a support system is important.
We are in the first quarter of 2015, this is an awesome time for setting new goals!
Create a Better Day!
Toni Love
www.tonilove.com
Author: "The World of Wigs, Weaves, and Extensions" (sold everywhere!!)
Facebook: Toni Love Cosmetology
Twitter: @tonilove205
The process of goal setting can be life changing. Many people set goals with high hopes of getting them accomplished within a certain time. Once the time passes and the goal is not achieved, many get discouraged and give up.
People who are super-achievers make a relentless commitment to constant learn. They have clear goals expressed in a crafted document detailing their plans. These are serious people seeking results. But, be reminded, people with average intelligence have achieved greatness by understanding the skill of goal setting.
There different types of goals: short term goal and long term goals. Some would go a step further and say, "unrealistic and realistic goals." When setting goals, you must be clear on what you are seeking. Things will not be accessible, until your thoughts are focused and directed. Also, the mind has to see it and you have to believe it is possible.
Some reasons goal setting can fail:
1. Most people make a "wish list" and cross their fingers. There is no plan of action.
2. Your ideas are not clear. Your goals must be crystal clear.
3. You are all TALK. You do not have a strategy in place, nor do you have the resources.
4. You do not have a "Management System." You do not have a system to keep you on track.
5. You are lacking reinforcement. You lack the support and/or guidance needed along the way.
When you have announced your goals to others, you need someone to hold you accountable and to "call you out!" Also, you need someone to give you encouragement. When working toward something positive, you may face obstacles and challenges. Therefore, a support system is important.
We are in the first quarter of 2015, this is an awesome time for setting new goals!
Create a Better Day!
Toni Love
www.tonilove.com
Author: "The World of Wigs, Weaves, and Extensions" (sold everywhere!!)
Facebook: Toni Love Cosmetology
Twitter: @tonilove205
Thursday, February 5, 2015
Hit the "Re-Set" Button!!
Hello Everyone!
I would like to challenge all the readers today. I challenge you to take a few "DISCONNECT DAYS" this year. We are all busy with electronic devices, social media communications and other distractions. Some people NEVER "turn it off," it's a way of life.
People are busy checking e-mails, responding to other communications, re-acting to other people's agendas and carrying stress around with them everyday. These are distractions and some days it's a constant, never ending stream. Take some time to rest and recover and set a goal to focus on being creative and productive. It's okay to enjoy a day of silence, reading a book or your favorite magazine, enjoying nature, doing something with your friends and family, or spending time actually talking to a person, instead of sending a text.
Use these days of silence to focus on a project for work or just to recover and revitalize. During the month of February, take time to enjoy LOVE! Do something meaningful without the use of an electronic device. Also, during this month, spend time learning about Black History, by visiting a museum or taking in a movie. Being it's the 50th Anniversary of "Bloody Sunday," take time to see the movie, "Selma" during a week day when the theater is NOT full.
Once you have fully disconnected, it will be time to "hit the re-set button!" When you disconnect from your usual daily activities, you can create depth, experience a great decompression from your busy surroundings, feel emotional relief, and return to work ready to be more effective and efficient. If you are the owner or employer, you are ready to help your employees become more independent.
Have you ever disconnected from your busy surroundings? If so, how many days did you disconnect last year? If you haven't tried it, make it a goal in 2015!:)
Create a Better Day!
Toni Love
Author: "The World of Wigs, Weaves, and Extensions" (Sold Everywhere!!)
Facebook: Toni Love Cosmetology
Twitter: @tonilove205
I would like to challenge all the readers today. I challenge you to take a few "DISCONNECT DAYS" this year. We are all busy with electronic devices, social media communications and other distractions. Some people NEVER "turn it off," it's a way of life.
People are busy checking e-mails, responding to other communications, re-acting to other people's agendas and carrying stress around with them everyday. These are distractions and some days it's a constant, never ending stream. Take some time to rest and recover and set a goal to focus on being creative and productive. It's okay to enjoy a day of silence, reading a book or your favorite magazine, enjoying nature, doing something with your friends and family, or spending time actually talking to a person, instead of sending a text.
Use these days of silence to focus on a project for work or just to recover and revitalize. During the month of February, take time to enjoy LOVE! Do something meaningful without the use of an electronic device. Also, during this month, spend time learning about Black History, by visiting a museum or taking in a movie. Being it's the 50th Anniversary of "Bloody Sunday," take time to see the movie, "Selma" during a week day when the theater is NOT full.
Once you have fully disconnected, it will be time to "hit the re-set button!" When you disconnect from your usual daily activities, you can create depth, experience a great decompression from your busy surroundings, feel emotional relief, and return to work ready to be more effective and efficient. If you are the owner or employer, you are ready to help your employees become more independent.
Have you ever disconnected from your busy surroundings? If so, how many days did you disconnect last year? If you haven't tried it, make it a goal in 2015!:)
Create a Better Day!
Toni Love
Author: "The World of Wigs, Weaves, and Extensions" (Sold Everywhere!!)
Facebook: Toni Love Cosmetology
Twitter: @tonilove205
Monday, January 5, 2015
Move Forward
Hello Everyone!!!
The new year is here and it is time to "run to your destiny!" Instead of setting resolutions for this year, get busy preparing for all the years to come. The work you do now will serve as a foundation for your future. It is time to go through your mind, phone, address book and press DELETE.
In order to move forward, there has be to be a separation of your past habits, especially, if they are affecting your life in a negative manner. Most are afraid, but, you have to get away from that which is familiar and leave something or someone and explore something new and different.
When I decided to move to Atlanta, in the beginning, I didn't tell anyone. It was a difficult decision in one aspect because I was very comfortable and I had a lot of family, friends, and business contacts in my area. My business was successful and in the natural, there was no reason to move. But, I knew in order for me to grow, I needed to make a change in my life.
I felt I had hit my "glass ceiling" in the area. As I thought more about it, I shared my idea with my mother, she said, "I don't want you to go, but, I know you need to go. I want to you to explore all your opportunities and spread your wings. I want you to be happy and you can always come home."
One of my mentors told me, "if you can start a business and make it successful once, you can do it again." Another mentor told me, "being comfortable and not challenging yourself is for lazy people. You're not lazy and when you challenge yourself, you grow and build character, and you should never stop growing."
Therefore, I knew I was thinking the right way. I knew it was time to move forward. In my personal life, I had to make a decision. Yes, it was hard. I had lifelong friends, former co-workers, employees who were like family, and loved ones who I had to tell good-bye, but, I did it. I wanted to learned something new, I wanted a different lifestyle, I wanted to meet new people from different cultures, and I wanted to explore the unknown.
I heard a speaker say, "you can't stay where you use to and do what you use to when God is calling you." Therefore, I ask, "what is God calling you to do?"
Create a Better Day!!!!
Toni Love
www.tonilove.com
Author: "The World of Wigs, Weaves, and Extensions" (Sold Everywhere)
Facebook: Toni Love Cosmetology
Twitter: @tonilove205
The new year is here and it is time to "run to your destiny!" Instead of setting resolutions for this year, get busy preparing for all the years to come. The work you do now will serve as a foundation for your future. It is time to go through your mind, phone, address book and press DELETE.
In order to move forward, there has be to be a separation of your past habits, especially, if they are affecting your life in a negative manner. Most are afraid, but, you have to get away from that which is familiar and leave something or someone and explore something new and different.
When I decided to move to Atlanta, in the beginning, I didn't tell anyone. It was a difficult decision in one aspect because I was very comfortable and I had a lot of family, friends, and business contacts in my area. My business was successful and in the natural, there was no reason to move. But, I knew in order for me to grow, I needed to make a change in my life.
I felt I had hit my "glass ceiling" in the area. As I thought more about it, I shared my idea with my mother, she said, "I don't want you to go, but, I know you need to go. I want to you to explore all your opportunities and spread your wings. I want you to be happy and you can always come home."
One of my mentors told me, "if you can start a business and make it successful once, you can do it again." Another mentor told me, "being comfortable and not challenging yourself is for lazy people. You're not lazy and when you challenge yourself, you grow and build character, and you should never stop growing."
Therefore, I knew I was thinking the right way. I knew it was time to move forward. In my personal life, I had to make a decision. Yes, it was hard. I had lifelong friends, former co-workers, employees who were like family, and loved ones who I had to tell good-bye, but, I did it. I wanted to learned something new, I wanted a different lifestyle, I wanted to meet new people from different cultures, and I wanted to explore the unknown.
I heard a speaker say, "you can't stay where you use to and do what you use to when God is calling you." Therefore, I ask, "what is God calling you to do?"
Create a Better Day!!!!
Toni Love
www.tonilove.com
Author: "The World of Wigs, Weaves, and Extensions" (Sold Everywhere)
Facebook: Toni Love Cosmetology
Twitter: @tonilove205
Tuesday, December 2, 2014
"Out with the Old and In with the New"
Hello Everyone!!
It's December 2014 and it's time to purge people and things out of your life. This is the time to take inventory and make decisions. Also, its time to celebrate the birth of Jesus. As the Christmas carol goes, "it's the most wonderful time of the year."
December appears to be the month people are in a festive and happy mood. Most are getting into the spirit of Christmas and making plans for the next year. During this time, many remove unhealthy things and people who take up space in their lives. "Out with the old and in with the New," is the phrase used to describe this phase.
Don't allow your past to hold you hostage! It's okay to want to move forward and value yourself and disconnect with people. Give yourself permission to move forward, enjoy your life, and have healthy relationships. It's time to go through your phone and e-mail addresses and press "delete." Sometimes in life, you must do it.
It's time to understand the true meaning of healthy family relationships, friendships, and business relationships. I have learned all business is NOT good business. I have learned to release people from my life without notice or warning. I have learned there is no amount of money worth me putting my intellect, skills, and talents on the back burner because someone else is incompetent. I have learned the true meaning of friendship and all the people who use the term and smile are NOT friends. We have to live in our truth.
Over the years, doing business with the public and being a person of service, it's "on-the-job-training." Cosmetology is a "service" profession. Cosmetologists provide a service for pay, therefore, in this industry, you come in contact with a lot of people.
I'm so grateful because my personal journey has been amazing thus far. I have met some wonderful people and made so many positive business connections and met life long friends. Therefore, this December, I celebrate and I am very thankful for all that I have achieved and accomplished this year. I'm thankful to God for placing the right people in my life this year and removing the wrong people. This year has been good, but, next year will be great!
So, out with 2014 and I welcome 2015! I'm living in my truth, are you?
Create a Better Day!
Toni Love
Author: "The World of Wigs, Weaves, and Extensions" (Sold Everywhere)
Facebook: Toni Love Cosmetology
Twitter: @tonilove205
It's December 2014 and it's time to purge people and things out of your life. This is the time to take inventory and make decisions. Also, its time to celebrate the birth of Jesus. As the Christmas carol goes, "it's the most wonderful time of the year."
December appears to be the month people are in a festive and happy mood. Most are getting into the spirit of Christmas and making plans for the next year. During this time, many remove unhealthy things and people who take up space in their lives. "Out with the old and in with the New," is the phrase used to describe this phase.
Don't allow your past to hold you hostage! It's okay to want to move forward and value yourself and disconnect with people. Give yourself permission to move forward, enjoy your life, and have healthy relationships. It's time to go through your phone and e-mail addresses and press "delete." Sometimes in life, you must do it.
It's time to understand the true meaning of healthy family relationships, friendships, and business relationships. I have learned all business is NOT good business. I have learned to release people from my life without notice or warning. I have learned there is no amount of money worth me putting my intellect, skills, and talents on the back burner because someone else is incompetent. I have learned the true meaning of friendship and all the people who use the term and smile are NOT friends. We have to live in our truth.
Over the years, doing business with the public and being a person of service, it's "on-the-job-training." Cosmetology is a "service" profession. Cosmetologists provide a service for pay, therefore, in this industry, you come in contact with a lot of people.
I'm so grateful because my personal journey has been amazing thus far. I have met some wonderful people and made so many positive business connections and met life long friends. Therefore, this December, I celebrate and I am very thankful for all that I have achieved and accomplished this year. I'm thankful to God for placing the right people in my life this year and removing the wrong people. This year has been good, but, next year will be great!
So, out with 2014 and I welcome 2015! I'm living in my truth, are you?
Create a Better Day!
Toni Love
Author: "The World of Wigs, Weaves, and Extensions" (Sold Everywhere)
Facebook: Toni Love Cosmetology
Twitter: @tonilove205
Tuesday, November 11, 2014
Dreams Do Not Have Deadlines
Hello Everyone!!!
November is here and it is time to prepare for the holidays. This is a great time to think about your goals for next year. Instead of making a resolution on New Year's Eve for 2015, design a strategic plan for your life now.
Many people have dreams and are afraid to take the first step. Common excuses are: "I'm too old, it's too late, I'm scared I'm going to fail, what if it's not going to work, etc." Please understand, if you allow these things to take over your mind, you will never fulfill your dream.
Dreams do not have deadlines! It's never too late! When I was teaching high school and college students, I would tell them to dream big! Envision yourself doing what you like and create dream boards to keep the images in front of you. Also, pray and ask God to bless you and give you the tools to make it a reality.
It is not a good idea to verbalize your dreams to everyone. Many people will not be encouraging or understand. And, if the person is very influential in your life, their "negative"opinion can possibly make you doubt yourself. Therefore, it is important to surround yourself with people who think outside the box.
Believe or not, your environment dictates a large percentage of your life's outcome. Who are you socializing with on a regular basis? Is your mate/spouse a negative person? Are your family members encouraging you? Do your friends support your endeavors?
Think about the people in the "inner circle" of your life and ask yourself these questions. Before entering next year, take a long look at your life and ask yourself, "Why haven't I fulfilled my dream?" When you realize the answer, it will be time to hit the delete button and remove some people from your life.
End 2014 with closure and excitement about 2015! Have a wonderful holiday season......peace and blessings!
Create a Better Day!
Toni Love
Author: "The World of Wigs, Weaves, and Extensions" (sold everywhere!)
Facebook: Toni Love Cosmetology
Twitter: @tonilove205
November is here and it is time to prepare for the holidays. This is a great time to think about your goals for next year. Instead of making a resolution on New Year's Eve for 2015, design a strategic plan for your life now.
Many people have dreams and are afraid to take the first step. Common excuses are: "I'm too old, it's too late, I'm scared I'm going to fail, what if it's not going to work, etc." Please understand, if you allow these things to take over your mind, you will never fulfill your dream.
Dreams do not have deadlines! It's never too late! When I was teaching high school and college students, I would tell them to dream big! Envision yourself doing what you like and create dream boards to keep the images in front of you. Also, pray and ask God to bless you and give you the tools to make it a reality.
It is not a good idea to verbalize your dreams to everyone. Many people will not be encouraging or understand. And, if the person is very influential in your life, their "negative"opinion can possibly make you doubt yourself. Therefore, it is important to surround yourself with people who think outside the box.
Believe or not, your environment dictates a large percentage of your life's outcome. Who are you socializing with on a regular basis? Is your mate/spouse a negative person? Are your family members encouraging you? Do your friends support your endeavors?
Think about the people in the "inner circle" of your life and ask yourself these questions. Before entering next year, take a long look at your life and ask yourself, "Why haven't I fulfilled my dream?" When you realize the answer, it will be time to hit the delete button and remove some people from your life.
End 2014 with closure and excitement about 2015! Have a wonderful holiday season......peace and blessings!
Create a Better Day!
Toni Love
Author: "The World of Wigs, Weaves, and Extensions" (sold everywhere!)
Facebook: Toni Love Cosmetology
Twitter: @tonilove205
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